Make it clear to the lawyer the result you are seeking and agree with the lawyer how you will approach each decision in the divorce process

Many of the divorces which go wrong – and the complaints which arise as a result – do so because there is a breakdown in communications. Customers are not clear with their lawyers what they want; lawyers fail to consult their clients about decisions that are being made. When this happens, disappointment is guaranteed.

Clarity on both sides is vital. If there is something – for example a family keepsake – which is not financially significant but really matters to you, tell your lawyer; if the lawyer doesn’t know, they can’t make sure that is factored into the settlement. But the lawyer also needs to keep you fully informed about how the case
is progressing, asking for your input into key decisions (whether to accept a suggested settlement or challenge it; whether to instruct a senior, expensive barrister or a more junior, cheaper one). That way, there should be less room for dispute between you.

But it is also essential that you listen to what your lawyer is advising you. Lawyers are the experts in the divorce process; that is why we employ them. If your
lawyer believes that you are being unrealistic in your expectations or should try another course of action, you should take that advice seriously. It is your case, and you should be able to have the final say, but a good lawyer will have your interests at heart and you should value their advice.